i don't understand

so hunny has tried to invite my parents out to dim sum more often. but they don't want to go because they don't like it that i stay over at his house. hello, i'm 29!! other people my age live together with their sig others! i completely agree it's not ok to live together when too young. in fact, personally i don't plan on living together with someone unless we're married. hunny has offered that i move in with him, he's also offered to buy a house together since he knows i'm looking right now. but i prefer to get my own place, more because of a personal goal of mine to own my own home. also, i prefer not to live together until marriage so that we feel a huge change in our lives after we get married. but staying over is a different thing. since hunny and i are as busy as we are, most of the time we can only see eachother at night. sometimes we'll even just sit there doing work together , but it's just nice to sit next to eachother.

anyhow, so my parents don't want to have dim sum with him when he asks. but they say he should initiate since i'm the girl and they are the parents of the girl. his parents have asked for me to invite them over to eat, but i know that they won't like to do that if they already don't want to have dimsum with hunny.

but then, yesterday mom starts asking when i'm going to get married, yada yada. i tell her, well, in the next couple of years probably. have kids a couple years after that. and then mom starts talking like that's too late, i should get married faster? ok...so she wants me to get married soon, but doesn't want to go out with hunny when he invites out my parents. and doesn't want to go meet hunny's parents?

oh and another thing! everyone knows how career and schooling are important to my parents. so hunny has been studying for certifications...one of which not many people attain and is very difficult to get. so as he's working a full time job and a part time job after hours, he's also studying. and now my mom wonders if he'll have time for kids?!! but if he weren't doing all that work and studying, she would have problems also! an she asks if he's doing the working and studying for them or for himself. if they talked to him more often, they would know it's for him! his parents ask me to come to dinner all the time. when they don't see me, they always ask where i am and what i'm doing. but apparently my parents don't want to ask hunny to come over, and they don't want to go out if he invites them. ok....

and then! there is also the issue of my parents getting along with his parents. funny thing is, my parents can get along with any stranger on the street. they will just talking to random people sometimes and invite them to our house. but when it comes to my sig other's parents, they must be perfect in every way for them to get along.

argh!!!!