angels, dinners and granite

friday was micki and vivian's bday so i partied it up with my girls and hunny's friends at this new club in SJ called Angels. kinda interesting how one crowd is so rowdy while the other crowd is more chill most of the time. the crowds i roll with can really vary...but in a good way. :) many single girls are popping out of the woodwork lately ( so teddio tells me..haha) i don't know why but i've had the strange urge to matchmake lately.

sat was hanging out with hunny, doing some errands. the kiwi at costco are REALLY good. really large fruit and sweet. mmmmm..... at nite was dinner at one of annie's friends house. she's moving away to vancouver to be with her man. the ex was there. normally it should not be awkward talking to him. somehow it was. i think because of the things i found out, i see him as a different person now. not the same person i dated. dinner was really yummy however. filet mignon, grilled baby carrots, green beens and squash, saffron rice, stuffed baked bell peppers. for dessert: 2 different kinds of cake and almond tofu. annie opened my bottle of wine first! yay! that means i picked a really good one. hahah. it was pretty good, a pinot noir. i'll have to remember the name later so i can buy it again.

sunday hunny and i went rock climbing at planite granite with a new friend i met at my bbq, jennifer. it's so funny, i think she wants more girl friends since most of hers are married or attached at the hip to their sig other. she used to be an attorney and now does building permits. tall, smart, pretty, fit...looking for a serious relationship now that she's ready. know anyone who's good with really independent girls? i need to invite her to go out with my girls. i think she'd really get along. it seems like a lot of my female friends are similar to her. ambitious and not too much in a hurry to get married.

which brings more ponderings...
when is it ok to put career first? when do you start changing your priorities? jennifer was a successful attorney (UCLA law grad) but had to quit her job and do something else since she felt she didn't have time to concentrate on her personal life. she's 30 now and recently divorced. she mentioned interest in starting her own consulting firm, however she is refraining becuase she wanted to make sure she had enough time for her personal life. does that mean we all have to make those kinds of sacrifices? many of my more successful guy friends don't like it when their sig other don't have time for them. however, this presents a conflict. those that are successful like to fill their days doing productive things. therefore, does that indicate successful guys prefer to date less successful women for it to work out logistically? when i really think about it, i don't really know that many equally successful couples. the few i do know, are extremely independent and are ok not spending a large amount of time together. perhaps that's the key. but then, that would suck if i were really ok not seeing my sig other. if that were the case, what's the point of having a sig other if you don't miss eachother? on the other hand, i do feel i'm more independent than most. as long as i see my sig other 2 days out of the week and talk on the phone once everyday i'm fine. me and my sig others (current and previous-ok well not the last ex, which is why we are not together anymore...he was too clingy) tend to do the " you hang out with your friends today and i hang out with mine" more than most. in my current relationship...it's just right. not too much, not too little :)