sandily's bday

pete, sandy, hunny and i all went out to celebrate sandy's bday last nite. we had indian food at Empress of India (5825 Cottle Rd, San Jose, CA). yum! hunny had garlic chicken, i had butter chicken. so i learned that chicken Makhani is actually butter chicken! that makes a whole lotta sense now because in pittsburgh, yanni boy would always order chicken makhani. those that know yanni boy (best friend erik from grad school) know he loooooooves butter. when he orders a bagel, he asks for extra butter. hahaha...who does that in these health conscious days!? so now i know why he loved that dish so much, it tastes like butter! haha. anyhoo, it was yummy yummy since it's been a long time since i've had indian food.

we talked about a whole lotta things. i also learned a whole lot about babies and being preggars. sandy is like an oven! i was shivering in my cashmere sweater with a shirt underneath. she was wearing only a light shirt! also , i learned that when a baby drops, it gets painful. =P when you're in labor, try to use the restroom before going to the delivery room so your bladder doesn't block the baby. soo many things to think about when having a baby! we also chatted about family members. she has two younger sisters who are finishing up with college now. i have many younger cousins that i'm "meme jieh jieh" - older sister. when we were 21-22, we thought we knew everything! learned all we had to in college, out in the real world making money. but now at 30 (well 29 for me since my bday isn't until dec), we realize there is ssoooo much more to learn. so much more to experience. and we are already 10 times wiser than at 22. a cousin of mine is finding her way in the world now. she's in nyc and wants to find a job. it's hard finding a job when you're right out of school, figuring out what you want to do. thing is, you don't figure it out until you start working and the best thing is to find something that gives you the most options. oh and she believes she can find a high paying job with a somewhat low amount of stress in nyc. i've met thousands of people with all my networking, travelling, etc. unless you don't mind lower pay, i've never seen a low stress job in nyc! (all of you can feel free to vouch for me) anyways, it's really hard to step out of big sister mode when talking with her sometimes. it's like, i know what's going to happen but sometimes you just have to let people make their own mistakes. sandy and i were discussing this because her sisters will be graduating soon and she hopes they will find jobs they are really happy with. good luck to the little sisters out there! i hope you find your way.